Well… this is my first post.. just tryin out… but hope u guys will give comments on how should i improve it… or anything u think u wish to feedback about what i’m about to write.. thanks for supporting…..
What i wish to share here.. is my personal point of view.. First of all… what’s life actually? this may sound stupid to you.. but maybe… think nicely. it’s actually what u are now…. for me, i think….life… is a complicated mix.. mix of our decision, our conclusion…. dont you think so?
We make so much decisions in our lifes…. in every view.. family, love, friends, work, and our ownself… Decisions are made, n there are usually 3 type of responses.. yes, no, n another is "how about…..", which make the decision either more perfect, or come out with another mess..
What i wish to focus on in this blog now is…. have you ever make any decisions in love?
Love life.. is the essense of our life. No one can escape from it.. well.. maybe some.. However.. from 10 person i’ve asked….. i got something a really funny conclusion:
"love…. u have it, u dun have it… u’ll some how feel bad on either 1"
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN LOVE?
A love that’s seriously….. serious… involves almost every element of life like i mentioned above… frien, family, job, ownself…without these elements… It’s not a Near-Perfect love..Why do i say :" Near Perfect"? it’s because.. LOVE… is never perfect.. i myself.. define LOVE as "Life Of Virtual Eternity"… which take love, always.. to a never ending.. because i do believe there is eternity love. It’s just depends on HOW both loving side of a couple.. handles the relationship… There’s where, DECISIONS come into play ….
"There’s a pair of long lost friends met up one day… lets call the guy Y and lets call the girl C… they fell into the pond of love in a speed of lighting…..without any doubt, they’ve made the decision to be a couple….n believe or not.. that was the 2nd date. Both Y and C, they did had dissapointment in love before… they failed hardly..n it DID hurt.. Maybe, tat was the cause that make both of them know what they should treasure. The decision was great.. they went on so nicely, and eventually became a "admirable relationship" to friends around them…. sort of like… a very good example of couple….
Both of them knows.. they ARE in love with each other, as they are havin lots of fun…their mind started to play tricks on them.
" Yes… i loved him/her….but when time comes… will we know what will happen between 2 of us? Are we too fast?….Does he/she really appreciates me? does he/she really trust me?"
"I think i’m starting to get bored… dunno why… dun wish to meet him/her for a while…"
"Dunno why i suddenly feel he/she has become so cold… all of the sudden… what’s wrong?"
Quarrels happened… misunderstanding occured…. n they solved it all…. for good.. but.. are those problems REALLY solved?
Few months passed…… they are still in love with each other… both side’s family were happy of this relationship…. n all of the sudden…. sumthing strikes both of them..
FURTHUR STUDIES……
C was lost.. over these few months, she’d changed..even herself realised that.. she cant take it.. she dun wish to continue the relationship because she’d suddenly lost confidence in herself to maintain a relationship….She cant take up a distanced relationship steadilly… Y was scare at first… but despite both of them loved each other, he decided not to let go.. However…. C gave up…. she wish to look for her lost soul alone…. n she do it for good…coz she dun wish to hurt the one she care of more in the future….."
Have you ever face this? so what was or gonna be your decision?
To love more n never wish to get anything back?
To love more n expecting some return, which is continue the relationship?
To love more…… hoping to get neccessary return for ur own soul’s thirts of love? or..
to stop loving…..hoping never hurts him/her more in the future, lets stop these… n we have our own separate live?
Well… decision had been made…. which is the last decision… it was a mutual agreement anyway… no one to blame anyone.. Both of them felt so sad n did cried… but what to do?
It’s Y n C’s life… they head on to 2 separate ways… hoping to bump onto each other in their future life’s pathway..in a better timming, better condition…… n hopefully…. both of them will still be single and available….
p/s: not really organised when typing this…. it was done directly because suddenly have this idea… no scetches, plannings.. sorry if u think it’s a mess// =P will try to improve in the future..! thankz for ur supportssss~
FEELINGS..
are the cause of the problem. However, without it, the world will not be so colourful.It’s also a factor that we put into whether conciously or unconciously in any decision making.
Feelings is also the source of LOVE. Without feeling, love don’t exist. Love is another ‘colour’ derived from feeling. Love is then can derived other colours like ’satisfaction’, ‘responsibility’, ‘faith’, ‘jealousy’, ‘hatred’, ‘miserable’, and etc.
In this world, we will have to use all these ‘colours’ to cherish our life, to live with it, to learn from it. Experience gained might be sweet or bitter, but the fact is everytime we faced a new experience, we’ll learn something.
Love.. feelings towards another person. Occur in all living beings in this world. Some love are heavenly matched, some gotto work very hard to get it, some of them the community just couldn’t accept it. But, why? Isn’t love is just the matter of the 2 person involved? Why should the community be involved?
Love.. most of us seeking security, honesty, loyalty, warmth, trust, understanding, hope from LOVE. But, I saw that nowadays can hardly get true love. Maybe that’s due to the materialistic culture of the community. Or might be lack of confidence, understanding, trust. I don’t know.
Hahaha maybe it’s just like those Chinese people likes to say,”I don’t care whether our love to be eternity, but I just care I once loved you”.
Don’t live in the past, as the past cannot be changed.
Don’t live in the future, as the future are not known yet.
Just live in present and treasure whatever you have.
Decision.. it’s just another stupid reason to get away from matters, I guessed. But, somehow something must be done. Hence, we must be stupid to do decision. Sometimes, it might be hard to do stupid stuff. Just like doing decision. But, in the world of LOVE, your decision is either to be selfish or to be selfless. Maybe giving blessing to the other part you loved might be a better decision compare of being a third party of a relationship. But, both to me are stupid decision too.
Wounded heart need time to recover. And maybe the Wind of Time will blow the sad memories off. Just don’t think too much of the sad part. Maybe just recall the best part during the relationship. It’s far easier to be said than done. But, it’s the matter of time and will.
Decision made.. no one should be blame. Maybe that’s how the world goes.. As they say, DESTINY.
Hong Ying…err..maybe i am not very good at this..but let nature takes the flow..i admit feelings is one essence in our life no matter how we deny it..and DECESION is just one element and nessecity in life…about the story here…wat i can say if take things as sweet memories and dun live it it…
Look at the past,remember it but dun live in it….
no matter wat…always remember u have frens by yourside to fight the hard times with you and your family besode u to support you…and res assured i am one of them who will be by yourside always…
cheer up and take care…blame no destiny and blame no one in this LOVE matter…if u wanna blame…blame FEELINGS…
signing off,
-gaRy™-
ive been thru this few times (6-7) liao, sometimes i feel like Y, sometimes i feel like C. But, the most important thing is, today, i cant really remember everything in details anymore. what im trying to say is, u’ll feel alrite after some time. n human has a v geng de ability is to forget things. well, u can still remember those sweet, memorable and meaningful events and dont worry abt other stuff, let time do the job. so that one day when u r old (like me), you know ur life is full of good experience when u think back.
hey..cheer up man! letting go a relationship is really no big deal, 所谓“旧的不去，新的不来”
anyway since there is aredi problems occuring btw Y n C, dun u think it is actually better to let go? so tat u guys would hav time to cool down, n when time flows by, maybe C would think it is actually better to hav Y around, n would approach back to Y, rite? dun take it as the end of u both, juz take it as a time break given to cool things down btw u two…ai sehhhh…say like a pro but actually neva had any bf b4 de, paiseh la aihz =P
anyway, juz cheer up la dude, juz like wat ur fren said, rmb the good memories, n 4get the bad ones, u’ll feel a lot better de, rmb there’s alwaz frenz around u to support u…peace k
aiyo….. guys.. not askin u all to console me lar… do sumtin like Kenny posted.. his own feelings, or own views on what i posted here.. maybe can be as simple as just answer my last question before my blog ends…. =)
You see.. If you ask me, once you’re in love with someone, it doesn’t mean he/she is the ONE. It takes time & lots of effort to develope, nurture a relationship to keep it growing. Just like a plant. Sometimes it’s not because you didn’t water it, it dies. It could be natural disaster or catastrophe. Who to blame?? It’s a two way thing. It takes two to tango. In life, there’ll be one whom we love most (BUT may not be the one we own).. Another would be our soulmate (whom we’ll live life with).. In a relationship, most of the time.. a decision is made together by both party. Have faith & trust in yourself, and your significant other. We always hear or ask people saying what’s the ’secret to everlasting love’.. The answer is always.. “trust”.. Weird huh.. Maybe it’s right.. So, if love hurts.. love more. If it still hurts.. love somemore.. Love.. till it hurts NO more..
L.O.V.E …a very complicated stuff for me…I’m a freshman in it, so i really can’t give any comment!!
Just that, from what I had seen in these few years and things i observed through my closed friends and others love relationship, love really has extremely powerful influences!
With it..u will like having the whole world, vice versa.. it will like a bomb.. a powerful nuclear bomb that will destroys all hopes and what u owned!
Actually I’m quite pessimistic about love! But, I do hope I can find my true love, as this is what everyone is looking for!
Honestly, love is a combination of sources, which contains happiness, hopes, delights, precious, sorrow, bitter, unknown and etc.
So, once u put yourself in.. Don’t blame and don’t lose hopes! JUST let it be! Naturally be, and always treasure it… PLEASE don’t make compare yours with others love! Comparing just will make things get worst! Cherish the memories of u with your lover every minutes!!
keke >,< ..for me.. can’t be lover, but still can be friends right!
Do remember, love doesn’t mean to seize or forcibly occupy, but is to LET GO!!
I knew this feeling, n I am sure I also hurt at that moment, really….I feel my soul suddenly filled with darkness.
From my 1st love n now, I need 5 year to recover to trust love, I dont think everyone is same, but I know oneself must gain the experience to go through the problem, loves is high impact but not end of the world, we still having friends, family and the future partner.
So I agree those comment above someone say let time to cure ur wound, no matter how hard and how hurt, let others to help u go through it.
Let me tell a short story about my 1st love loh, I meet him in MIRC, he is good enough for husband, but I have a uncertain feeling about the future, and I scare I will be the one who betray him after all… I dont have the confidence also, then I when I decide to let go, he just agree that and cry for his own, how I know? Because his mum tell me that, I dont think easy let go is make the other hurt less, foolish thinking that the hurt will stop if I give up in the begining, the other will soon recover n found someone true love. I am a gal like to think much, think the bad ending… so I failed in 1st time because defeated by pressure of parents, friends, myself, studying and his feeling toward me… all come in once not space for me to relax, feel so much troublesome and worries.
So, any cause may determine the making decision, we just dont regret on it.
All of us do not know who is the true love so we just continue find it, sometime find wrong and lost the true love, sometime believe not strong enough to hold the true love…. so we need the guts always to prove wat we found ok.
Kampateh…. love is a good challenge in life also.